Brides from Russia (and Ukraine) are popular worldwide. This has caused a rise in Russian dating scams targeting men (and women) from the west, particularly the US. How do these scams work?

Side note: Not all Russian women are scammers. On the contrary, the vast majority of are of honest and sincere intentions. Most of them are seeking a happy relationship or marriage with compatible partner.

The typical Russian dating scam story starts with the victim receiving a response to his personal ad. Sometimes the victim does initiate contact by responding to that super-model-like photo profile. But most of the time the first contact is made by the scammer: this gives the scammer more control of the situation as well as the target.

In most scam stories, the girl usually will be much younger than the man. The man almost certainly gets excited by the thought of an attractive young woman taking interest in him, and out the window goes his thinking process.

After a few emails the woman claims to be madly in love with the man. She asks to join or visit him in his country. However there is a problem. She does not have money for visa and/or air ticket. He is asked to send her money by some irreversible method such as wire transfer.

What the guileless gentleman does not know is that he might not even be communicating with a woman. It could be a man, usually a member of a scam ring. Needless to say, he ends up losing his money, with a bruised ego to go with it.

Other ways of getting money out of victims include faking a family “tragedy”, for English lessons, for internet connection, the list goes on.

Russian dating scams are not always perpetrated by Russians, however. Back in 2004, an American man named Robert McCoy was in the news. He and his wife were both arrested and tried after defrauding his fellow citizens of thousands of dollars in a Russian bride scam. He would use his Russian wife when he needed a female voice and Russian accent (now, who wouldn’t be fooled by that?).

Russian scam rings work in various ways. One way is to hire language students for a very minimal fee for their profiles and/or their English language skills. Another way is to use pictures of Russian models and posting a fake profile on a dating site. Some Russian and mail order agencies dating sites are bogus.

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The concept of mail order brides has been around far longer than has the Internet, but the Net has become the preferred venue for finding a foreign mate. Although most Russian bride websites downplay the ‘mail order’ aspect of their service, the only difference between these websites and the mail order bride catalog of the 1970′s is that former was distributed in hard copy and the latter arrives via cyberspace.

There is no denying that love has been known to spark in strange circumstances, but one has to wonder if its’ love, or some other motive that causes men and women to enter into a ‘mail order bride’ relationship. Go to any Russian brides website (and there are hundreds of them, some legitimate, some not), and you will notice several commonalities. Each site states that, “Russian women are extremely open-minded, and tolerant of most anything”, and every woman pictured on each website could easily be a beauty contest winner. These certainly are attractive selling points.

Oops, we aren’t supposed to talk about selling! It is stressed that Russian woman are not selling themselves through these services, but are merely looking to find the man of their dreams so they can please him in every way possible. These Russian beauties don’t mind living on a tight budget, will work if hubby wants, or will happily stay home and care for home and family, free of selfish career goals.

These women all appear to be highly educated, yet they are not opposed to marrying a man much older and less attractive than they themselves. Russian women are represented as being accustomed to male domination and sexism, so they will not be bothered by those attitudes from their foreign husbands. They are touted to be extremely tolerant with an emotional temperature well below that of their western counterparts. Long-suffering and patient, Russian woman never lose their cool, even if their spouse has many mistresses!

So why do these miraculous, low maintenance creatures need a foreign husband? Unfortunately the women out-number the men in Russia (100 women for every 88 men), and single women are treated with only minimal respect in the Russian culture. If you are not married by age 25, it is unlikely that you will ever marry. Rather than to be doomed to a life of disrespect and despair it is preferable to fly off with a stranger in hopes of finding marital bliss abroad.

Do we really have to ask why Western men might like to marry a woman who has limited English skills and comes advertised as a Barbie Doll who cooks and cleans? Ah, if only it were real!

The fact is, often times it isn’t real. The ‘free’ listing on a Russian bride website may come with a myriad of hidden costs that present themselves later down the road. Some Russian brides are rumored to be fronts for the Russian Mafia. Other Russian bride websites have no brides at all. Men think they are corresponding with the lovely Anna in St. Petersburg, when indeed they are sending handsome pictures of themselves to Ralph in Cleveland and being scammed out of airfare.

Russian women are advertised as ‘trim’ when a more accurate descriptor might be ‘starved’. Health problems linked with poor nutrition and generational alcoholism is never mentioned. Abuse, abandonment, and poverty apparently have no detrimental impact on these women, and they always arrive in the USA unimpaired mentally and physically despite any deprivation or torment they may have suffered as children and young adults. Pretty unbelievable, huh?

Yes, the entire concept upon which ‘Russian brides’ is built is unbelievable. Talk with any Russian male and ask why Russian women want to come to the US and marry American men. Most will agree that it is because Russian women want to live like American women, not because they are just dying to hook up with an overweight middle-aged American man. This means that once settled in America, beautiful Swetlana may decide she wants to pursue a career, delay child rearing, and take long vacations in the sun.

Darn, there is just no truth in advertising anymore.

This internet world provides means for Russian girls looking for marriage online. There are many Russian dating websites that offer singles to find Russian girls for dating. Western men or American men seek Russian women for marriage from these dating online services. Russian women dating American men on a purpose to come to that country. We have seen many online Russian dating services booming on the Internet in the last few years. Many popular Russian dating web sites offer 100% free Russian dating services which help many online Russian singles to find love and romance without a fee. That’s wonderful, isn’t it? Some Russian dating services provide free membership for a limited time but some Russian dating sites offer free for a life time to the members. There are pay Russian dating services that were created long time ago and they charge members some fee a month. Big Russian dating services have the amount of joined members to two million and the number of members are going up. 

We can see how on line Russian singles and Russian personals like Russian dating services on the Net. The main purpose of online Russian dating services is to provide single men and single women to know each other on Net. Some Russian dating services focus on specific area, such as Northern America, UK, Russia, Asia, or Europe regions, and there are Russian dating services are world-wide. Single men and single girls can meet thru the on line Russian dating sites for friendship, relationships, or marriage. On line Russian singles, in a moment, can see other Russian personal ads in front of computer. Registering a profile takes a few minutes at these Russian dating sites and we recommend that you upload your photo to increase your chance in getting more attention from other members. The old saying said that one picture worth thousands words which is always true. When a member look at your photo, they will contact you right away if they are interested in your photo, without reading all the information you write on your profile. So, posting your profile with a picture or two photos increase your profile values. 

Usually, online Russian dating services have new members on the homepage, which have newest members with photos. Profiles without pictures are usually not displayed on the front page of these Russian dating web sites. Let us put it this way, when you search for a profile, you always look at profiles with pictures at these Russian online dating services. Statistics usually shows that profile with pictures are viewed much more than profile without pictures on these Russian on line dating services. Selecting the best online Russian dating services that matches your dating style is not easy. Some members use their photos that they took 20 years ago to post on the on line Russian dating sites to attract on line Russian singles. So, you sometimes get surprised when you meet some specific members in person. So, before make decision to meet that specific person that you know on these Russian dating sites, make sure you ask for their latest photos. Some on line Russian single dating services generate thousands of marriages a year. 

Russian girls for marriage is waiting to meet you. There are thousands of Russian women looking for marriage at these great Russian dating websites. So, are you ready to meet that special Russian girls for marriage. Do not wait. Take action now. Join these free Russian dating services and meet that other half of your dream.

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When I first began on my journey seeking a Russian Bride, I was just in awe at how gorgeous they were AND that they were still available… as I’m sure most Western men feel when they visit these Russian woman sites too. Yes, it was eye candy heaven and I loved every minute of it. They all shared the same typical profile too… “Looking for man my dreams! I cook, clean and shall be the good wife! I want family with the children… where is you, man my dreams?”

Seemed simple enough, as I fit the profile for most of the Russian women on there. And as I searched towards finding the perfect Anna Kournikova clone, thinking of how I would rescue her from the fallout of Communism, poverty and near starvation… she, in return, would think of me as her hero, love me forever and worship the ground I walk upon.  All because I sent her an email. Yes, pure poetry to her ears that somebody from the Western world wanted her more than a bottle of Stolichnaya Vodka!

And after 2 years of courtship through emails, I eventually found my perfect match… a petite, sweet, blonde Russian girl named Nadejda. Only 25 years old… old enough to know what love is and still young enough to fall for it! Yes, I am a lucky man and have been very fortunate. But in my quest towards marrying a Russian woman, I have learned the truth that separates MYTH from REALITY. Many Russian bride sites will likely argue with me on many points — but this is because they have to. After all, they need Western men to spend their American dollars, right? But I want to set the record straight. My article is not to tear down the Russian Bride sites, but rather to amuse and entertain you while being truthful… so I will speak the truth based on my experiences.

So what is MYTH and what is REALITY? Well, let’s see, shall we?

1) Myth: All Russian women are just as beautiful as Anna Kournikova. Sorry, but unless you’re Anna Kournikova, the closest you’re ever going to get with her looks is a photo. MOST (and yes, I do mean MOST) Russian girls are a 7 at best, being on a scale from 1-10. I grew up in Chicago, Los Angeles and Las Vegas, so maybe my opinion is a bit biased… but living here in Russia, I have yet to see the beautiful women as represented within the agency sites. Also, I once heard that Russian women supposedly age more gracefully than American women… yet another myth. Most Russian women over 30 look terrible and are very much overweight. I have met some American men here in Russia and they all laughed because they agreed… Russian women over 30 look like they’re 45.

2) Reality: Russian women are more family oriented. Completely true! Russian cultures are very family oriented, especially the women. My wife talks to her sister and mother daily, and holidays you can expect large family gatherings.

3) Myth: Russian women would do anything to come to America. Completely false. Most Russian women are actually very intimidated of the very thought of leaving their home country. Again, they are very family oriented and while they might be intrigued to live in America (or elsewhere), the vast majority of Russian women don’t care to live that far away from their family… UNLESS you are a millionaire and want to share your money with their family!  I mean, hey, we’re all human, right?  Heck, I’d gladly sell my brother for a penny — any takers?

4) Reality: Russian women love Western men. This is actually true. Many Russian women are intrigued by foreign men (especially western men) and find it **** that you’re not from their country. Not to mention, many Russian men drink heavily and are alcoholics, which also plays into why so many Russian women seek relationships abroad.  I believe hygene also plays into their decision too — but I can’t be too sure.  Perhaps I should ask them why they keep pinching their nose?

5) Myth: Money doesn’t really matter to Russian women. This is only true if you’re wealthy — because only then does it NOT matter. Sorry fellas, but your $30K salary will only be fine to a Russian lady if you reside within a Russia village or Ukraine. Outside of that, these ladies have no desire to trade in their $200 monthly flat just to live with you in your really cool trailer! If you plan on marrying a Russian woman, you had better bring something to the table besides your charming personality.

6) Reality: Russian women are faithful and loyal. This is very true from what I have experienced. Many Russian women are faithful and loyal to the ones they love. They are extremely devoted.

7) Myth: Russian women are too poor and don’t have the internet. I want to clarify this right now… this is NOT true for the majority of Russian women. Most people have the internet, and if not from home, I can assure you they have it from work and often check their emails at work. This is a common ploy agencies use to have you pay more money to use their mail forwarding services.

Reality: Russian people are broke and their salaries are very low. The average Russian woman makes about $200 per month. However, their cost of living is very low here, so think of it as making around $600 per month in the US. Living in Russia has taught me that this country is LAZY and BROKE… notice I said broke, not poor. There is a huge difference. Africa is a poor nation, but not Russia. Many Russians are lazy because — well, in all honesty, they have no desire to work for pennies a day.  Who can blame them?

9) Myth: Russian women are scammers and only want your money. Not true at all. Most Russian women who scam for money on the web are not even women at all… they are men posing as women. If a Russian woman ever asks you for money, 9 times out of 10 it’s a man posing as a woman.

10) Reality: Russian women are very strong individuals. These women have been through a lot in this country, so do not make the mistake of thinking a Russian woman needs a man to SAVE her because they don’t make a lot of money. They WANT a man, but definitely don’t NEED one. The divorce rate is high in this country because Russian women don’t have a problem with leaving their husbands due to mistreatment. If you treat them right, they will stay with you forever… but disrespect them, and they will drop you like a bad habit and never look back.

These are just a few things I discovered along the way. Russian women can and do make wonderful wives, but in order for this to happen, a man must pursue this with great patience. It won’t happen in 3 months… but if you persist at it and stay in touch with one girl for long enough, then I assure you, it can happen as it did with me! Good luck!!

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1. Determine your requests to your future Russian bride.

Try to understand clearly what you want from your relationship with a Russian woman, your future bride. Set up the priority and choose what is the main criteria of the choice, what you are ready to give in and accept compromise variant. Her profession? The knowledge of your language? Children? Appearance? Something else? In what number should these qualities be present in your bride? Now try to look at this as a whole and think if there are such women at all. Can these qualities be together in one person? Or are they imcompatible?

2. Think what your ideal woman would want from you

Imagine the portraite of “your” woman. Where and how does she live, what is her occupation, and what is she interested in? But the main think is what position a man has in her life and what wants from him, what are her criteria of choice. Are you ready to satisfy the requirements? A girl or a woman has her right, the same as you, to choose. What are you ready to offer to her in exchange for what you want to receive. Some men think that helping a woman to move to their country is enouph to build stable relationship. There are Ukranian and Russian women who will be led by this motive, but do you want to have such a wife? If you see that you requirements are unrealistic return to the first paragraph, make less strict your requirements and imagine a girl with less strict requirements.

3. Create a virtual image for yourself

On the site of International Acquaintance we communicate with virtual people, created by our imagination from pictures, the profile and letters. Think of an image of a man who will be the most attractive for chosen by you a type of a girl. What is this image? Is it sensous and spontaneous? Energetic and provoking? Serious and neat? Intellectual and romantic? When you create your image make it a person of integrity. Pictures and answers should not contradict each other and support one idea. Variety on distance more often misinforms and puts on guard than attract. Let other your virtues be seen during more personal communication. But do not be over-diligent in creating your “portrait”. In spite of artistic stylization it should reflect real and significant part of your “I”. Otherwise, during your meeting you will both feel mutual disappointment.

4. Display energy and initiative

There are thousands of profiles online – to wait for a girl who answers your certain criteria can take years. And she can fail other criteria – seriousness, honesty etc. The dating sites are replenished each day. If you like a Russian or Ukrainian girl send a postcard or write a letter or give any other sign of attention. The more ladies you honour with your attention, the more you have chances to find the lady of your dream. Be attentive, talk with her about themes that are interesting to her, ask her about her life. Ask your lady for a telephone number and talk with her on the phone.

5. Do not give up because of failure.

How many women, beautiful and nice, have you met at work, in the streets, at friends? And have not met that only one? Have you met with lack of interest or rudeness? And have not you left a hope for a happy meeting? why then after one unsuccessful attempt of virtual acquaintance on a dating site you think this way to be doomed to failure? The search for your second half is a serious and goal-oriented work. Internet is not a lottery and not a fairy country, where wishes come true by themselves. Internet is a possibility to enlarge a circle of search to the world level. Many of our clients want to find a Russian bride becuase they see happiness of their friends who found a wife in Russia. Ask them how serious they were in this. But what if your search does not result in anything? What if girls do not write to you or you do not like those ladies who write to you? It means that you direct your charm not on the women you want or you selected wrong image. Read this recommendation from beginning and change your profile. The main thing – do not give up!

Russian women are known for their striking features and beauty, intelligence, warmth and strong characters. It is no wonder then that foreign men are fascinated by them, and not only men looking for a casual relationship, many seeking a long lasting partner they can be equals with and eventually have a family are attracted to the virtues a Russian bride has to offer.

One of the main reasons Russian women look further than their homeland for a foreign man is due to the fact they far outnumber men in Russia but don’t want to spend their lives alone or settling for ‘second best’. If you are looking for a lady from Russia be aware that each will have different reasons for wanting a foreign man, so choose carefully who you get involved and form relationships with. Whilst some women may want the same as you, a loving partner with whom they can share their life, there are others who will just be looking for some fun and still others only interested in your money. Take your time when forming relationships and don’t go rushing into anything without being 100% sure it is right for you.

So, where can you find your Russian bride? If you have a full-time job and time is valuable, consider hiring the services of a matchmaker or online dating agency that specializes in the field of Russian ladies. If you are shy, apprehensive or simply too busy to travel to Russia yourself, this can be the perfect solution. An agency will allow you to look through the options and study ladies profiles before making any decisions.

To join an online dating agency is a simple process. Normally, you fill out a profile with details about yourself, your likes and dislikes, ambitions as well as specifics such as age and height, then return it along with a photograph and this is entered into a searchable database. Once your profile is in the database, everybody can have access to it.

From the thousands of ladies you can select the ones that interest you and from there your correspondence will begin! Select as many as you like as all you are doing at the moment is getting to know people and you will find that some people will have nothing in common with you.

Russiandatinglive.com focuses on matchmaking services and dating for people looking for a serious relationship which will, hopefully, lead to marriage. Their matchmaking service is personal and they are not only an Internet marriage and dating site but also have a real agency in St-Petersburg, Russia. Russian ladies have to register before an interview and then are psychologically screened by the agency psychologists. This is quite unique for a dating agency and, as the agency staff know the ladies personally, ensures only reliable, honest ladies are selected.

To find a Russian lady is not such a difficult task with thanks to the internet, on-line dating and networking sites and marriage agencies. The difficult part is feeling secure in the knowledge that the lady is genuine. For peace of mind it’s best to register with an online dating agency that has been established for a number of years and is reputable and can help you find beautiful, sincere women.

SECURITY and LOVE are the most important things Russian girls want to have in the relationship. If we search through thousands of women’s applications, read ladies’ forums, we will see that the most important requirement to a potential partner is reliability. Almost all of brides say: “I want my future husband to love and understand me.”

The most popular requirement we see in women’s questionnaires is “financially secure”. A foregn man does not have to be very rich and have a six-figure annual income. Having a stable job is good enough. The better your financial situation, the less problems a family will have in future. It means, a fiancé must have a stable job and be able to provide for a family of at least 3.

The women’s income is not high in Russia, but it does not mean that Russian brides are after your money. They just want to make sure everyday surviving never happens to them and their families in the US. A Russian wife will support you through any turn of fortune, whether you go bankrupt or hit a jackpot. But nobody wants to start a serious relationship with an unemployed loser.

At first fiancé’s good financial standing may impress a Russian women. It worth respecting. But soon the other important factors will count. A  relationship works successfully when it involves mostly emotional factors. The majority of women will refuse rich guys with a high income in favor of an ordinary men, if ladies like them more personally. Women want to feel secure and at ease.

Love for Russian ladies includes commitment. Since long distance relationships don’t make much sense without possibility of being together in the future, the women need assurance you are ready to offer this commitment. If you are not looking for a marriage partner, Russian ladies won’t take you seriously.